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Get What You Need

16 Feb

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Chuck loved Valentine’s Day. He would draw me a little cartoon in the morning before going to work. When he came home, he would bring flowers and a card. For a few years after the stroke, I keenly felt the loss of this silly holiday. Everyone (at least on Facebook) was getting flowers or candy or making plans for dinner. My sweetheart, once so thoughtful, doesn’t even realize it’s Valentine’s Day; and if he did, he would be unable to get me a gift. For a long time, I felt sorry for myself on V-Day, but then on one February 14th, I decided to feel gratitude and was moved to share on Facebook:

“I was tempted to feel sorry for myself today, but then I remembered all the times Chuck brought me flowers when it wasn’t even St. Valentine’s Day. I’m lucky that I found someone who genuinely caring, thoughtful, generous, and so many other wonderful things. He still is, even if he can’t express it in the tradition ways. I’d rather have him here, as is, than all the flowers, candy, and ‘Be Mine’ cards in the world. Plus, he’s given me the biggest gift of all: a way to express MY love in a way most people aren’t called upon to do, by taking care of him.”

Forty-eight people “liked” the post and 15 people commented.

“Laura, this is the most beautiful thing I’ve seen all day!!! What a fabulous valentine for your husband!!! What a beautiful spirit you have!”

“I don’t know your story, but I’ve never heard a sweeter Valentine!”

I was so touched. Each time I got another replay, I felt I had received a little Valentine.

In the words of the Rolling Stones, “You don’t always get what you want…but if you try sometimes…you get what you need.”

If you would like to learn more, please read my book, Stroke Happens.

Best, Laura Ann Garren

 

Stroke Happens: A Resource for Survivors, Caretakers and Loved Ones

13 Jun

Welcome to my blog, Stroke Happens, a resource for anyone who has been affected by stroke. It’s also the title of my book about stroke, recovery and caretaking. If you are a stroke survivor or a caretaker, like I am, or if you are a loved one of someone who has suffered a stroke, I hope this blog will provide you with information and inspiration.

Stroke happened to us August 31, 2007, when I woke up to find my husband, Chuck, mute and paralyzed. He went to bed himself and woke up a different person, in effect. Although I didn’t realize it at the time, we had started out on a journey that would test the limits of love and endurance.

Chuck Self Portrait

Along the way, I learned many things only after I really needed the information. One of my goals in my Stroke Happens blog is to provide answers to questions that the reader hasn’t asked yet. I want to help other stroke survivors and their caretakers to avoid some of the obstacles I faced. I want to offer support to those who are dealing with stroke and its aftermath, to show that happiness is possible even after the most dramatic losses imaginable.

I hope you will find this website informative, entertaining and helpful. I also have a Facebook page by the same name (Stroke Happens); please check it out and click, “like.” Thanks for reading.

Best, Laura Ann Garren

 

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